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Nique
@im.just.nique

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Gaslighting is by far the manipulation tactic I’m most susceptible to. I was surrounded by people who spent so much time hiding and concealing as a unit that I was convinced I was the odd man out. Surely a whole group of people wouldn’t all agree about something totally untrue. For what? Why would they all come together just to lie? As a person who avoids lying at all costs (but I won’t sit here and pretend that I never do 😅) I just assumed that everyone else did the same. So I must have been mistaken, sometimes about small things, once about the most lifechanging experience I ever had. I must have been imagining things. And once I realized the group was an awful group and the people were terrible people, well of course then I was crazy, dramatic, ridiculous. Really, I was broken. It was NEVER them. So it had to be me. Right? Wrong. Manipulative people can see naïveté from impossible distances. They can smell you through walls. They can identify your blind spots and hide all their flaws there. They can show you all their wrong but show others all their right to confuse you. But once you have that moment of clarity? You better fight for your damn life as they villainize you, and sit with the fact that not every person that attaches themselves to you wants the best for you. Some people are made for that. More people are not. One day maybe I’ll be mature enough to think and act like the last slide, maybe I’m manifesting it. Maybe I won’t, and I’m not 🤷🏾‍♀️ That’s my choice, and the people that victimized me don’t get to decide what type of offense I take or how I tell my story. They don’t get to make that choice for you either. Regain your control and don’t beat yourself up for a good lesson learned in a bad space. You’ll know what you’re looking at the next time you see it, and you’ll move different. Guaranteed. . . . . . #lifelessonslearned #growth #selflovematters #blackgirlhealing #blackwomenhealing #therapyforblackgirls #therapyforblackwomen #liveandlearn #growthroughwhatyougothrough #keepgoing #dontgiveup #fakelove #frenemies #letgo #moveonwithyourlife #blackgirlscanheal