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Natalie Stavola | Actress & Dating Coach
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They don’t tell you that your past and childhood experiences can significantly influence your dating choices and relationship dynamics. And I get it, I was in and out of abusive relationships, struggling to love myself and seeking love and safety in unsafe people who couldn’t even show up for themselves… how could they show up for me!? It took a long time to learn the hard way some of the biggest factors that affect who you keep attracting in and attaching to… Here are 4 things they don’t teach you about dating… 1. **Attachment Styles**: Your early childhood attachment experiences with parents/caregivers can shape your attachment style in adult relationships. 2. **Family Dynamics**: The dynamics within your family growing up can influence your expectations and behaviors today. If you witnessed unhealthy or dysfunctional relationships growing up, you may unknowingly repeat those patterns. 3. **Past Trauma**: Unresolved past trauma, such as abuse or neglect, can lead to emotional wounds that affect your dating choices. (Get professional help to heal from trauma and learn healthy coping mechanisms.) This can prevent you from seeking out partners who may inadvertently retraumatize you. 4. **Low Self-Esteem**: If you experienced criticism or rejection in your childhood, it can impact your self-esteem. You might be drawn to partners who reinforce negative beliefs about yourself. Working on self-esteem through self-care/self-help, therapy, and/or coaching can help you choose partners who value and respect you. The good part about all of this is that you can change and heal ANYTHING. You can learn how to have boundaries, cut off toxic people, choose better… and actually have a successful life and love life with peace and ease… Acknowledging it and knowing you want better is the first step❤️ If you want to learn more, comment below or DM the word “DATE” to see if my 90 Day Transformational Coaching Program FROM TOXIC TO TRIUMPH is right for you. You can have an incredible life… no matter what you’ve been through or what you’ve done because of it.. You deserve peace, happiness, and love. #datingcoach #datingcoachformen #relationshipgoals #relationships