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Rachel Sherrill
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I see so many women staying super stuck on the “why” of someone’s emotional unavailability. This is one odd way that makes us become emotionally unavailable.⁠ ⁠ Why?⁠ ⁠ B/c while we’re busy fixating on the emotionally unavailable man, this takes up a lot of emotional space in our heads and hearts. We can’t even see what else is out there. We can’t get passed the one person who literally doesn’t want to give you what you desire.⁠ ⁠ You’ve heard the saying “where you focus goes your energy grows” - Well that is so true. If you spend a lot of time psychoanalyzing a guy who didn’t have any staying power, you are not serving yourself well. In fact, you are keeping your heart enslaved to a man who probably hasn’t even thought about you at all since he walked away from relationship with you. Be careful of this. I know it’s hard to get over someone you built up a whole big vision with. I get that on a deep level. But only YOU can do the job of shifting your mindset out from the enslavement you might be keeping it in. That’s good news, you hold a lot more power to do this than you think.⁠ ⁠ 1. The first step is coming into radical awareness. Doing deep inventory on what you are fixated on. What do you keep ruminating on? What is consuming your mind or heart? … Is the person you are hung up on even an option in your life or are you an afterthought to him?⁠ ⁠ 2. Work on creating NEW memories. When we are trying to get past something we are hooked on, creating new memories helps to rewire our brains so we create new emotions attached to new experiences. This is powerful when done well.⁠ ⁠ 3. Ask yourself, is this the love I really want? The kind that is hot and cold? The kind that is gives me a high but avoids commitment?⁠ ⁠ Sit with some of these thoughts and see what comes up for you.⁠ ⁠ Have you experienced obsessing over a guy who wasn’t able to give you emotional availability or commit to loving you forever? Let me know below!⁠ ⁠ If you desire to find love and want to be fully supported, coached, and crack the codes on love, join my True Fem Academy this September 16th. :)⁠ ⁠ #thetruefeminine #datingtips #datingcoach #datingadvice