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I have made many pandan chiffons but never a tiered pandan chiffon wedding cake. Thank you to the @tendergardener who entrusted me with your special day. This is the most rustic cake I’ve ever made - sans frosting or elaborate decorations. There was nothing to hide the air pockets or imperfections in the cake. That’s what we bring to a marriage - our raw self, imperfections and all. Mr TBF and I celebrated our 23rd anniversary recently. No one ever told us that marriage involved such hard and heart work - hard because it requires us to humble ourselves - to listen to our partner’s heart. Hard because we always think we are right. So we fight each other in our hearts to get our spouse on our side, without realizing they have a side too which they want us to be on. At our couple workshops, Mr TBF and I bare our vulnerable mistakes. We are still learning how to fight - not each other, but for our marriage. The pandan chiffon is one of the hardest cakes to bake. It takes skill and experience to ensure the meringue is whipped to stiff peaks, not too soft and not over whipped. Underbake it and it collapses, overbake it and it’s too dry. It’s taken so many failed reiterations to get to this, and even so often, there will still be one or two cakes that collapses. Like marriage, even the most skilled of marriage facilitators like us will still fight. When a cake sinks, we learn what went wrong and if we were to try again and again, we get better. When we fight, we learn something new about ourselves and our spouse, and if we care to learn from it, the experience invariably draws us closer. ******************************* Our couple workshops are fully subscribed for 2023. We will be releasing 2024’s dates soon. Our pandan cakes are seasonal bakes, do keep a look by following our stories for the announcement. #weddingcake #pandanchiffon #coupleworkshops #marriageadvice #tenbutterfingers