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Natalie Rose | Eating Disorder Therapist
@wakeupandsmelltherosay

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💔When we struggle with self-comparison, we are usually dealing with envy (and likely deep-rooted shame, or a feeling of not being ‘good enough’). ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Envy is a universal emotion🌎 - it happens when we want something that others have and we don’t (i.e. money, happiness, beauty, popularity, etc.). ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ❗️Although envy is inherently normal, too much envy can cause us to engage in self-destructive behaviours, such as making excessive efforts to change ourselves in ways that destroy our well-being, health and authenticity (i.e., copying another person’s eating habits in an attempt to look like them) or efforts to sabotage or avoid those we envy. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 👉🏼What you want to do is act OPPOSITE to the envy. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 👇🏼Instead of obsessing over ways to change yourself or be more like them (which never works favourably in the long-run and ends up leaving you disconnected you from your true self and others), you should try to do the exact opposite: ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ✨count your blessings ✨focus on what you DO have ✨focus on what’s reasonable to work towards (i.e. building skills) ✨remind yourself that they can be beautiful, smart and great AND you have wonderful qualities TOO ✨stop exaggerating others’ worth and diminishing your own ✨take others down from their perceived pedestal ✨consider maybe it’s not better in their shoes ✨everyone and everything has positives and negatives ✨remind yourself it’s not a competition ✨there’s enough love, joy and opportunities to go around ✨you can co-exist without being the same ✨you are GOOD ENOUGH ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #dbt #envy #oppositeaction #comparisonisthethiefofjoy #stopcomparing #stopcomparingyourself #bodyimageissues #insecurities #selfconscious #mentalhealthmatters #dbtskills #bodyimagehealing #edrecoverycommunity #bodyneutrality #emotionregulation #copingskills #copingtools #bodyimagehealing #selfconfidencecoach #selfconfidencejourney