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Early this month, a little unexpected but heartwarming moment occurred. TBF Junior and Ten Bruh-Der Fingers (the moniker given for our two children) decided to join us at our "Art Of Disagreement" class for couples. They quietly took a seat at the back, and did their own schoolwork. It felt like a flashback to the days when they were young and we used to bring them to church while teaching marriage prep classes, something we've been doing for the past 21 years. Every now and then, as we shared our experiences with kids to the class, our two teens would glance up at us. I thought they couldn’t hear us with their earphones plugged in, but it turns out they're quite adept at multitasking! Our teenagers understand that we're not a perfect couple. They've witnessed our disagreements, moments of frustration, but what we hope to have demonstrated to them is the importance of not fleeing from conflicts. Conflicts can be remarkable opportunities to draw closer to our spouse if we make the effort to resolve them wisely. We find ourselves close to the "empty nest" stage now. I can't help but think that before long, our kids and their future partners might officially attend our classes and hear our "war stories." However, their journey will be uniquely their own to navigate with their future partners. As parents, our responsibility is to model how to tackle conflicts so that our kids won't shy away from difficult conversations. It's a skill they'll carry into their future families and workplaces. Passionfruit and Lychee, two distinct fruits - one with a seedy interior, the other sweet and refreshing. I never imagined pairing them together, but it has been a delightful surprise. To make this pairing work, the passionfruit had to be transformed into a luscious curd, and the lychee had to be combined with zesty lime. Marriage, like this unexpected flavor duo, demands effort and the ability to bring out the best in one another. It's about embracing each other's unique qualities and flavors to create something extraordinary. Available on www.tenbutterfingers.com for the month of Sept and Oct. 

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